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Faster isn’t better

“Need a high school diploma fast?” asked a post linked on a homeschool group.

“How can my son graduate at 16?” asked another.

“My kid is going through his online lessons so quickly that he’ll probably do three whole grades this year!” bragged another.

Y’all. Faster is not better. It’s just not. If your kid is getting their work done at triple speed, they’re probably not a genius (though, hey, there are geniuses out there, so assess appropriately). It’s way more likely the work is far too easy.

What happens when kids meet work that is far too easy? That doesn’t challenge them? Well, they usually don’t develop academic resilience. They don’t develop deeper problem solving skills. They probably miss out on lots of content, and we know that long term, content is good for shoring up learning in general. We know this is one of the reasons that gifted learners struggle in a regular classroom and often struggle long term as well. When we give neurotypical learners too easy content, they’ll struggle as well.

Faster just means faster. Sure, it’s nice to ace a timed test or beat the clock sometimes. It’s nice to get to content that you’re ready for, when you’re ready for it. No need to hold back a 5th grader ready for Algebra I or a 10th grader ready for a college research class. That’s not what I mean.

What I mean is that lots of the best learning experiences aren’t fast. Watching a science project come to fruition, doing long term observations of something, writing your own stories, learning to draw figures, coding a full game, prepping for a debate, making and editing a movie, tackling a math problem that’s really difficult, reading a thick classic novel… these things aren’t fast. They take time. When all we do is fast, our kids miss out on the richer experiences. They miss out on the experiences where you have to tinker to get it right, where there’s not one path or one right answer. They miss out on the deeper, complex thinking.

As for meeting milestones and moving forward, early graduation is right for some kids. But there’s not a rush. Most kids can take community college classes as a high school student and most 4 year colleges aren’t going to accept your 15 year old with a cheap, online diploma, so it’s not like college credit options are out of reach. Starting college as a freshman can mean much better aid packages in many cases. And what is the hurry exactly?

Again, early graduation can be right for some, but many homeschoolers seem to want to be finished with their kids when they become teenagers. It’s especially jarring to me to see so many go from thoughtful approaches in the early grades to writing their kids’ educations off as teens. “Get a diploma fast!” is not a thoughtful, purpose-driven education. If a student has other goals that they’re truly ready for, then maybe it’s the right call. But much of the time, families seem to be shortchanging their teens in favor of moving them along quickly, rather than making sure they get the education they deserve.

In the end, education is slow. Slow down. No one is falling behind during the pandemic… because education is not a race. There’s no rush. The more you rush, the more you miss. Planes have circumnavigated the globe in less than two days, but would you really call that a round the world trip in anything but name? Education is the destination. The diploma is not.

Celebrations of Arbitrary Lines

Originally, I didn’t really plan anything to mark the passing of the boys from fifth grade into sixth. However, they heard about school kids having elementary school graduation and immediately wanted to know what I had planned. Nothing, I admitted.

Every new school year brings new challenges and I’m always aware of moving forward, striving to be better, trying to – not keep up with peers, but to be mindful of what peers might be up to. However, I try to de-emphasize this stuff with the kids. You’re doing the work that’s right for you, the challenges that are right for you, making progress for yourself. And, honestly, since they have friends of many different ages on different sides of various arbitrary lines, I don’t want them to get the idea that they’re “ahead” or “behind” anyone in particular. They’re just on their own paths.

But then I thought… You know, arbitrary lines can be fun. Arbitrary lines are why we celebrate the new year and birthdays. They’re why the new millennium was so much fun to celebrate. They’re why we all hold up our hands and scream (what? that’s not your tradition?) when we cross a state line on a road trip. And they’re why, when we passed this, driving through Namibia, we absolutely had to pull over to the side of the road in what was otherwise the middle of nowhere and take a picture. And, let me tell you, when something is in “the middle of nowhere” in Namibia, it’s like another level of middle of nowhere.


So I decided, hey, let’s celebrate the crossing of this arbitrary line. I whipped up graduation caps from craft foam and string we had in the art supplies and we took these photos. (In case that sounds too crafty, I promise that it was absurdly fast. If you have a kid approaching an arbitrary line, all I did was make a circle of foam to fit on their heads then hot glued a square on top of it and taped a little tassel on. I’m sure it would work with cardboard or even stiff paper as well.)

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Then we went out for a fancy breakfast. Every was gratified. Hooray for crossing lines!